Tommy's

Supporting dads and partners in pregnancy and loss

Like mothers, partners suffer when their baby dies, but their grief is often overlooked by society. Tommy’s will create a hub of supportive resources for partners during pregnancy, and run a public-facing campaign to change attitudes on the effect of baby loss on partners and direct them to our hub.

history Campaign has now closed

It ran from 12:00 PM, 1 December 2020 to 12:00 PM, 8 December 2020

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Registered Charity in England and Wales (1060508)

Check mark Match funded

Campaign target

£100,000

Amount raised

£101,787

Donations

525

Championed by The Reed Foundation

    Category

  • Health/WellbeingHealth/Wellbeing
  • Information/AdviceInformation/Advice
  • Medical ResearchMedical Research

    Helping

  • General Public/HumankindGeneral Public/Humankind
  • Minority GroupsMinority Groups
  • Women & GirlsWomen & Girls

Location

United Kingdom

  • "In my haze, I scoured the Internet for articles and blogs on missed miscarriages. I desperately sought solace in other people’s experiences. There was exceptionally little from the point of view of men or partners. Maybe my grief was not even legitimate."

    — James, who has lost 4 babies

  • “I was emotionally invested and present for the pregnancy, but physically I wasn’t showing. When we discovered my wife may possibly lose the baby, it was a long few weeks of seeing her levels go down and having to monitor the pregnancy."

    — Laura-Rose, who experienced miscarriage

  • "The mental scars feel permanent and there were numerous occasions where I felt that my wellbeing was an afterthought for those who we encountered on our journey, whether it be medical professionals or even friends and colleagues.”

    — Ross, who experienced recurrent miscarriage

Situation

There is a lack of pregnancy information designed for partners. 38% of new fathers are worried about their mental health, and social pressures can make men less likely to seek support. This can be isolating and lead to harmful coping strategies. Even worse, 1 in 4 pregnancies end in loss, causing heartbreak to thousands of families. This is intense and long-lasting, no matter how early the loss. But the focus is on the woman undergoing the physical loss, whilst partners receive little support.

Solution

We will create a content hub for dads and partners to support them throughout the pregnancy journey, including real stories of partners’ experiences, and a host of information and resources to build a supportive community. We will produce our campaign in collaboration with partners, with a specific focus on those who have lost a baby to encourage them to break the silence. We will distribute this to health workers, employers and the public, and drive them to our hub to engage with our resources.